Don’t Give Up Your Relationships

just because you are caring for an aging parent Good friends on a couch having fun!

Caregiving is a demanding job for sure, but you don’t have to give up everything just to be a person who honors, loves and cares for a family member.  Take some time to consider the impact caregiving can have on each of these areas of your life.  Then make a plan to ensure you have the relationships in your life that are most important.

 

Friendships

Without realizing it you might find yourself too busy to get together with friends.  You could even end up cutting conversations shorter than usual and not reaching out at all.

Friendships like all relationships require a time commitment.  Your time together might need to look different than it used too but remember your friendships will provide an important benefit to your life.

 

Children

Being a part of the sandwich generation means you are caring for an aging parent and you still have children at home.  There are lots of demands on your time, attention and love.  You will often feel torn and even feel that no one is getting your best.

The key is to help your children to understand that elders have increased needs and our family is going to be there to help.  Your kids can be a bright spot in the life of your loved one, offering smiles and the simple joys of life children bring.  It is also important to remember you are setting the example for your kids of how to care for all family members and balance life’s relationships so be mindful of how well you are offering love and support to all members of your family.

 

Marriage

Caregiving can have a significant toll on romantic relationships.  Sharing your struggles, joys and concerns with your spouse will help them to understand the juggle you are living daily.

But be aware of how your spouse is feeling and be sure to communicate your appreciation for their support and to prioritize time with them in your life
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It is important to be mindful of the juggle and how it is affecting you, your family and your loved one.  No one can do it all.  You needed a supportive network of people who can help you.  Asking for help when you need it is one of the most important things you can do to be able to continue caring for those you love.

One thing that can have a significant impact on your ability to keep going when it is difficult is having a group of people who understand the challenges involved in caregiving.  A support group can be a lifeline for anyone in the thick of caregiving.  I would love to have you join us for our FREE online Support Group~ A Season of Caring Chat.

 

 

Now take some time to evaluate your relationships.

  1. On a piece of paper list those who fall in the above categories.
  2. Rank how your caregiving season is impacting those relationships.
  3. Record a next step to reconnect or communicate with each person on your list.

Take action to make sure when your caring season is over you still have those important people in your life.